Donald J. Trump is a man his supporters would avoid like gay pride parades if he were saying the things he says while unshaven and pushing all his worldly possessions in a shopping cart.
But he wears bespoke suits and lives and works in buildings with his name on them. So instead of being called out for what he is – the emperor with no clothes – his rants are miraculously elevated to the level of worthy discourse. It would be lovely to live in a world where his call to bar Muslims from entering the US would signify the beginning of his being exiled from public life. Sadly, I know better.
I don’t often put words in the mouths of dead people. But I’m pretty sure that Helen Sperling, who died last week at the age of 95, would have excoriated Mr. Naked Emperor.
Helen was the first Holocaust survivor I ever met. I don’t remember not knowing her. But until a Sunday School morning when I was 12 and 60 or so of us sat on the floor in the Edelstein Room at our synagogue while Helen sat on a chair and told us her story, I only knew her as Paul and Franny’s mother.
Helen was the mother with the musical laugh and long hair worn in a braid down her back. My mother had short hair and a short fuse. I wanted the mother with the musical laugh and long hair. I loved being at the Sperlings’ house. I spent a lot of time there because Paul was one of my best friends until we turned 5. His sister Franny was two years older. She was beautiful and way too sophisticated to hang out with four-year-olds.
One day, which I only can tell you about because it became the stuff of legend for the mothers involved, Helen served a lunch that consisted of pretty much none of my preferred menu items. (In Helen’s defense, I was a pretty strange eater. I didn’t like peanut butter. I didn’t like jelly. I didn’t like tomato sauce. I didn’t like sweet things.)
But I had been taught to be polite, and to be a good guest. Good guests did not ask for food that wasn’t already on the table. Good guests did not say “I don’t like that!”
So, when Helen called Paul and me into the kitchen for lunch and sat us down, I evidently surveyed the repast and looked up at Helen.
“These,” I said, eyeing up the contents of one of the serving plates, “are the friendliest cucumbers I’ve ever seen.”
I know that Helen must have laughed and laughed in that moment, because she and my mother both laughed every time one (or both) of them recalled it – right up to last year, when I was in Utica for my Aunt Bessie’s funeral and had time either to go to the cemetery and see my dad or go hang out with Helen, who was 94.
I called Franny to make sure Helen was up for visitors. Sadly, Paul and I never re-established our pre-kindergarten bond (there’s always hope, and we do have our memories), but when I was 15 and Franny 17, we got close. Ten years ago, we reconnected. Aside from being a generally fabulous human being, she is is also an amazing aerialist, and my hero and inspiration in all things flying.
Helen was as full of life and as feisty as ever. That she needed oxygen to breathe and wasn’t so good at getting out of a chair did absolutely nothing to diminish her vivacity and power.
She exclaimed over the cream puff I had brought for her (“My favorite! How did you know?” What I didn’t say: “Because Franny told me when I called her to see if you’d be up for a visit.”) and lamented that she didn’t have anything to serve. I’d bought frozen fish sticks; Helen was thrilled to let me use her oven.
We yakked like girlfriends. I told her about my experiences as a reporter in Central Wisconsin, where a Holocaust denier had taken possession of a good deal of Public Square real estate. The denier used local media to broadcast her message, got herself invited to an eighth grade classroom to talk to students, and even arranged for a public talk at the local two-year university center. I spent three years there, I told Helen, and was most proud of two things I’d done. One was connecting a local coffee shop to Colectivo, a Milwaukee-based coffee roasting company, making it possible to get a great cup of coffee in the (relative) middle of nowhere. The other was getting a Holocaust survivor to come to talk to those eighth graders, and to give a public talk at the university center.
We talked about getting old and dying. She was ready, but as long as she could, she said, she would tell her story. I asked her if she’d recorded it.
“Yes,” she said, “I spoke with the Spielberg Foundation. (The disc is) in a vault, because until I’m dead, I want people to hear it directly from me.”
She told me about the bracelets she gave every attendee at the end of every talk. Blue, and engraved with the words, “Thou Shalt Not Be A Bystander.”
“I don’t have any here,” she said. Then, she remembered that she was wearing one. She took it off and gave it to me.
Helen was a staunch supporter of Israel. She also loved the United States, and the best of what both countries aim to be and represent.
There is no way she would have stood by while a well-dressed, charismatic political wannabe spouted religious hatred. She knew exactly where that led. Which is why she spent her life doing everything in her power to make sure no one would ever have to go there again.
Note: Even though Helen didn’t want any video of her telling her story while she was alive, I did find one – on one of her many visits to Union College, her talk was videotaped. Click here to see it.
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Well done, Amy. And point well taken.
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all though I loved Helen a lot I could never hear her talk about her terrible horrible ordeal as I could never picture any one wanting to hurt such a dear sweet woman or any one else but they did years before I met you Danny and I where in Hebrew School in Syracuse when the Temple by mistake showed us the most horrible movie I have ever seen ,it was about what Hitler did in black and white horror I was young but something inside me told me it was something that had happend that was real and I started to cry so much I had to be taken out of the room it has NEVER left me nor the people I knew who had run away my Mother`s sister Barbara`s Husbands family was one that ran away I loved my Uncle Eric`s Mother and Brother a lot his Mother who`s name was Beatrice I called Omi she was one brave woman I had never heard of World War 2 before the movie G-d bless Helen and all those who fight the good fight of goodness and honor and equal treatment of all people reardless of what they belive Love to all Waldman`s Debby P.S. please send me a bracelt if you can and tell Paul and his sister who I do not know how much their Mother ment to me and everyone in Utica
I don’t know where to get one of those bracelets, Debby. I have the one Helen gave me – they were on order, and that’s why she didn’t have them the day I visited her. I’m planning to write to Paul & Franny, but it won’t surprise me if they see your comment. Also, if it’s the movie I’m thinking it was, it was probably “Night & Fog.” Pretty grim stuff. I remember when we saw it. I think it might have been either right before or right after Helen came to our synagogue. xoxo
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My new job and the rest of life is keeping me very busy, but I’m reflagging this post because it’s important, given that Mr. Mean Girl Nasty Boy is now the Republican Presidential Nominee.
Thank you for again sharing this beautiful essay and Helen’s poignant video, dear Amy. We need to honor Helen and all victims of oppression and tyranny by denouncing hatred, racism, and xenophobia at the ballot boxes this November. We CANNOT be bystanders to our own history. Hugs~ Anne
Amen, and absolutely honoring Helen and the millions and millions of others, victims of too many despots. We don’t need
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